I'VE BEEN REALLY FEELING THIS MERCURY RETRO MORE THAN USUAL AND WITH TODAYS FULL LUNAR ECLIPSE AND BLOOD MOON COMBO ON TOP OF IT I'M TOTALLY OUT OF IT BUT I HAVE BEEN FORCED TO CONFRONT SOME PATTERNS IN MY LIFE AS I HAD SOMEONE I THOUGHT WAS A FRINED ATTACK ME FOR NOT RESPONDING TO HER AND BEIN THERE FOR HER. NOW SAID "FRIEND" HAS IGNORED MY CALLS FOR LIKE 8 MONTHS BECAUSE SHE'S HAPPY AND HAS A NEW MAN SO SHE CHANGED HER PHONE # AND IGNORED MY FB POSTS , MESSAGES, COMMENTS. I CHECKED SHE HASNT POSTED ANYTHING ON MY PAGE SINCE BEFORE AUGUST AND HASNT COMMENTED OR EVEN LIKED ANYTHING I SAID ON HERS EITHER. APPARENTLY SHE'S OFF HER MEDS? (MEAN BUT IT'S HOW I FEEL AT THE MOMENT AT LEAST I'M NOT NAMING NAMES!)
SO I CALLED HER ON IT AND SHE UNFRIENDED ME, I DECIDED AFTER SOME PONDERIN TO BLOCK HER BECAUSE SHE HAS NO BUSINESS OR RIGHT TO TROLL MY POSTS IF WE ARE NOT FRIENDS. BUT THAT GOT ME TO THINKING HOW MANY PEOPLE ABUSE ME OR IGNORE ME AND I FORGIVE ALL BECAUSE I "NEED" PEOPLE IN MY LIFE. THE AFFECTS OF BEIN AN ORPHAN ARE FAR REACHING AND HARD TO CHANGE, AND GOODNESS KNOWS I'M A WORK IN PROGRESS. BUT I DECIDED TO CUT THE "FAT" AND GET RID OF THOSE WHO DONT RESPECT ME OR MORE IMPORTANTLY DESERVE ME. SO I POSTED THIS ON MY FB TODAY AND THOUGHT I'D SHARE IT. THOSE OF YOU WHO ARE HERE FOR ME KNOW IT AND I CHERISH Y'ALL THE FAIR WEATHER HANGERS ON KNOW WHO YOU ARE TOO!
I'VE BEEN PONDERING MY FAULTS FOR YEARS AND ONE OF THEM IS AN INABILITY TO LET GO. SEE AS AN ORPHAN I HAVE SEVERE ABANDONMENT ISSUES AND I HANG ON TO THOSE WHO DONT RESPECT OR DESERVE ME FAR AFTER THEIR USEFULNESS HAS EXPIRED. I ALSO LET CRAP GO, MISSED APPOINTMENTS , NEVER RESPONDING TO MY CALLS/EMAILS/POSTS AND MAKE EXCUSES FOR THEM EVEN WHEN MY FEELINGS ARE HURT..........MERCURY RETRO IS THE PERFECT TIME TO LOOK AT PAST PATTERNS AND LET GO OF THEM. ALLOWING THE NEW AN OPPO...RTUNITY TO MOVE INTO THE WASTED SPACE.............SO IF I DONT ADD SOMETHING TO YOUR LIFE, YOU DON'T HAVE TIME FOR ME, OR YOU JUST THINK PFFFT IT'S TIM HE DOESNT MATTER THEN I SAY FROM THE BOTTOM OF MY HEART WITH ALL THE EMOTION I POSSES...............FUCK OFF AND UNFRIEND ME! I'M NO LONGER AVAILABLE FOR THOSE WHO DONT SHOW ME THE SAME RESPECT. I DONT APPRECIATE OR DESERVE BEIN CUT OUT OF YOUR LIFE AND THEN BEIN BLAMED FOR NOT BEIN THERE. IF THIS RESEMBLES YOU THEN I'M SORRY IF IT'S SHOCKING OR UNEXPECTED BUT THE SLEEPER HAS AWAKENED AND THINGS ARE GONNA CHANGE!
SO I CALLED HER ON IT AND SHE UNFRIENDED ME, I DECIDED AFTER SOME PONDERIN TO BLOCK HER BECAUSE SHE HAS NO BUSINESS OR RIGHT TO TROLL MY POSTS IF WE ARE NOT FRIENDS. BUT THAT GOT ME TO THINKING HOW MANY PEOPLE ABUSE ME OR IGNORE ME AND I FORGIVE ALL BECAUSE I "NEED" PEOPLE IN MY LIFE. THE AFFECTS OF BEIN AN ORPHAN ARE FAR REACHING AND HARD TO CHANGE, AND GOODNESS KNOWS I'M A WORK IN PROGRESS. BUT I DECIDED TO CUT THE "FAT" AND GET RID OF THOSE WHO DONT RESPECT ME OR MORE IMPORTANTLY DESERVE ME. SO I POSTED THIS ON MY FB TODAY AND THOUGHT I'D SHARE IT. THOSE OF YOU WHO ARE HERE FOR ME KNOW IT AND I CHERISH Y'ALL THE FAIR WEATHER HANGERS ON KNOW WHO YOU ARE TOO!
I'VE BEEN PONDERING MY FAULTS FOR YEARS AND ONE OF THEM IS AN INABILITY TO LET GO. SEE AS AN ORPHAN I HAVE SEVERE ABANDONMENT ISSUES AND I HANG ON TO THOSE WHO DONT RESPECT OR DESERVE ME FAR AFTER THEIR USEFULNESS HAS EXPIRED. I ALSO LET CRAP GO, MISSED APPOINTMENTS , NEVER RESPONDING TO MY CALLS/EMAILS/POSTS AND MAKE EXCUSES FOR THEM EVEN WHEN MY FEELINGS ARE HURT..........MERCURY RETRO IS THE PERFECT TIME TO LOOK AT PAST PATTERNS AND LET GO OF THEM. ALLOWING THE NEW AN OPPO...RTUNITY TO MOVE INTO THE WASTED SPACE.............SO IF I DONT ADD SOMETHING TO YOUR LIFE, YOU DON'T HAVE TIME FOR ME, OR YOU JUST THINK PFFFT IT'S TIM HE DOESNT MATTER THEN I SAY FROM THE BOTTOM OF MY HEART WITH ALL THE EMOTION I POSSES...............FUCK OFF AND UNFRIEND ME! I'M NO LONGER AVAILABLE FOR THOSE WHO DONT SHOW ME THE SAME RESPECT. I DONT APPRECIATE OR DESERVE BEIN CUT OUT OF YOUR LIFE AND THEN BEIN BLAMED FOR NOT BEIN THERE. IF THIS RESEMBLES YOU THEN I'M SORRY IF IT'S SHOCKING OR UNEXPECTED BUT THE SLEEPER HAS AWAKENED AND THINGS ARE GONNA CHANGE!
I can only speak for me and I say with no hesitation that I value our friendship. I have learned so much from you and have been reminded of much that I had forgotten. I want to stay on the friend list.
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there was never a doubt I'd be keepin you darlin!
DeleteGreat post! I hadn't realised how abandonment issues can impact friendships. Thanks for sharing your personal perspective. Sounds like you made the right decision regarding your now former friend.
ReplyDeleteI've had to let friends go as well--some "Negative Nellies" and "Crazymakers". It's hard to do sometimes. I hate confrontation, so mostly I've let the friendships fade out. A few times I had to confront them face-to-face and explain why the friendship couldn't continue. But ultimately, I'd rather use my energy for positive interactions rather than be sucked down into negativity.
true, it was a hard won insight for me, sometimes I just need closure so they cant creep back in. cause I've let people screw me badly and then 6 months or a year later weasel their way back in without even apologizing/acknowledging what they did.
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